Personal Responsibility :: Fertility Challenge Etiquette
If you were to ask me, “What is the one thing that you want participants to take away from the challenge?” it will be personal responsibility.
I want you to know that only you can create your life in the way that you want it to be and that only you can choose how anything or anyone is going to make you feel. The meaning of our life, the meaning of the things that we come in contact with and that we do are dictated completely by the meanings we choose to attribute to them.
Personally responsibly is about making sure that you are 100 percent committed to making the changes, the adjustments that are required to live the life that you want to live. Sure people say to me, “… but it’s so hard to take personal responsibility for the fact that I’m infertile.” The reality is that there are plenty of things that you can do and that you can choose to learn, to implement that are going to help you towards a more fertile outcome.
Every single one of my patients who has been successful through my program, they’ve chosen to take personal responsibility and know that if it was going to change, it was going to be up to them.
You can’t do anything about the fact that right now, you’re not holding the healthy baby of your dreams in your arms. You can’t do anything about that fact in the moment. However, you can do something about how you feel and what meaning you choose to attribute to that, how you choose to actually feel about that.
You can feel miserable or you can feel determined, you can feel happy that you’re learning new things, or you can feel that things are going to be better and therefore feel helpful and have deeper, stronger faith.
What it is that you choose to feel, you can feel whether you feel miserable about it or happy about it, or empowered about it is really going to deeply depend upon what meaning you choose to attribute to that event or circumstance.
I have supported thousands of people through this process and I know that it’s possible and it’s only going to be possible if you choose. That is the key number one thing that I want you to take away from this process and that is why the feedback that you get through this process is so important.
They’re making about something that is not. It’s not about you being inadequate. It’s not about you being silly or stupid or foolish. Don’t label it something that it’s not. We’re all learning. We’re all here to improve in every aspect of our lives. I’m still learning. I’m still improving.
This is what taking personal responsibility looks like. It’s like, “Okay, what am I telling myself about this situation, about this person, about this event in my life right now that’s making me believe that this is true.”
Question yourself, question the things you tell yourself. Because unless we make a difference in our lives, in how we feel and how we look at things and how we think about things, nothing is ever going to change, nothing is ever going to change until you make it so.
Continuing to do the same thing over and over and over and over and over and over again is literally only going to give you more of what you don’t want, more of the same result that you have already got up until now, so snap out of it. Take personal responsibility for your results