Learning :: Do Your Part
Doing and implementing and putting in practice what you’re learning during the Gabriela Rosa’s Fertility Challenge can make such an incredible difference.
I mean I posted last Friday about a couple of patient of ours who have had 19 failed IVF cycles, 19. Can you imagine what it’s like to fail at IVF 19 times? For 19 full cycles, this is not just embryo transfer, 19 cycles. Imagine alone the expense of it all, imagine what somebody goes through to go through that and they conceived after going through our program naturally.
I mean I can’t even begin to describe how incredibly excited we all are. I mean I’ve seen many couples go through our program and improve and optimize their chances of IVF and get pregnant through IVF even when they failed multiple times.
I was quite confident to them that it could happen. Yet I never imagined, that they were going to conceive naturally like they have. It was a great lesson to me, to just get myself out of the way and just do the work. Do the work. Guide my patients. Guide our couples to just do the work and do what is required because it is incredible what is possible when you do the work.
Be really focused on that. Continue doing everything that you’ve learned in the Fertility Challenge and know that an experience like mine is absolutely possible.
I know that there’s a lot of you participating in the challenge right now who have PCOS, who have irregular cycles, who have all sorts of different reasons or fertility difficulties, even sperm factors, sperm health issues and everything else.
Like my husband and I have proven and my patients, thousands of them, have proven over the last almost 20 years is that it is absolutely possible. The key thing is that you have to as I always say, you’ve got to keep the faith. You’ve got to do what it takes and why not enjoy the ride.
It’s one thing if you give it your absolute all and you do everything that you possibly can if you don’t get there. That’s one thing and you can rest assured and you can be happy and healthy in the knowledge that, “Hey, at least I gave it my all. I gave it my best.”
But when you don’t try, when you don’t do your best, you will forever look back and wish and hope and think what if I had and I should have and I didn’t, and that is definitely the one thing that I don’t want for any of you , that regret, that deep sense of regret of thinking and feeling like “I could have done more”
A lot of times, I hear people go, “You know, I leave it up to God. God knows best. If he wants me to have a baby, then I will, and that’s just how it’s going to be.” Well guess what, sometimes God works in mysterious ways. Sometimes God sends the boat, the ship, the helicopter and all the different ways that people still drown and die and wonder why did you not save me? They wonder that because once again, they weren’t actually focused on, “Okay, me doing my part and then the heavens come to my aid.”
My favourite quote that I just love more than anything else. “Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness, concerning all active initiative and creation there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans, that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves, too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would come his way.”
Now, can you see what I’m saying?
Sometimes just by getting in there and giving it all your all, you engage divinity, providence, whatever it is that you want to call it to help you, to give you even more strength, to support you.
I mean even for some people, I hear this all the time, I really do and I am so touched always because for me, being an instrument, being someone or something that can help people is what I am in this world for. It’s my mission and whenever I hear this, I just feel like, “Wow! Isn’t that wonderful? People tell me that this challenge, this experience that they have been able to go through was an answer to their prayers that they finally found what they were looking for.
However, you have to be active, you have to be looking for it. For some of you, you were lucky enough that it just kind of jumped on your lap, but even then, it’s possible that you were talking to yourself and you were hoping and wishing and wondering if you would be able to actually create the outcome that you were wanting to create and you wanted the support to do that. That’s where this becomes incredibly fortuitous or providential is another way of putting it.