Winning Team The Fertility Journey as a Couple Part I
You really want to make sure that you get your partner involved in order to create a truly winning team. Here’s what I mean…
A: It’s one thing if let’s say I’ve been to a wonderful idyllic beautiful location, let’s call it the most beautiful beach with the most wonderful sunset, pink skies, purple pink, orange, all sorts of beautiful colours, and it’s just this most splendid experience, to see this incredible sunset.
I am there and I am watching this and I’m seeing it, and I’m going, “Wow! I just want to share it with as many people as I can. I just want to share it with the love of my life. I just want to share with whoever.” You have this incredible intention like you have experienced this most intensely amazing thing, and you want to share it, right?
Now, you go home. You find your loved one and you start to express, to share, “Oh, my gosh! Darling, I love you so much. I saw this most wonderful, amazing, beautiful, splendid ” whatever superlative you want to use, “sunshine and it was incredible. I so wanted to share it with you. It was like all shades of pink and purple and orange. It was just amazing.”
Now no matter how good your description is and I’m sure that you’re great at giving descriptions – yet no matter how amazing your description is, your partner is going to look at you and go, “Oh, wow! That’s really lovely, darling. That’s great. I’m so glad you enjoyed yourself.”
Are they really going to get or have the experience that you had when you saw that most beautiful creation in that incredible sunshine or sunset, and go, “Wow! Look at that!”
No matter how much of a great job you’re doing of relaying it, it’s still not going to actually cut it. They have the gist but they won’t get the full scope of what that sunset was really like, and it’s no different on this journey, in this process, on this path.
So the reason that you want to make sure that your partner watches all the videos with you is not only that you can talk about it, not only that you can actually come up with some game plans together, as a team, to overcome infertility or miscarriage.
You need them onboard so that he or she may share that moment that you will experience if you do everything that you need to do throughout the challenge, that aha moment, the light bulb moments of discovery and empowerment.
Remember we’ve had over 30,000 people take part in the Fertility Challenge now. I get to hear, all the time, people sharing their light bulb moments, the things that they didn’t know, that they didn’t know, that have made a huge difference to their journey.
The pregnancies, if you scroll through the Facebook group, you’ll see a heap of pregnancy announcements from people who have been there #GSD and voila! They truly implement change, typically as a winning team, and that’s the key thing.
Make sure whatever you do, that your partner is a part of this with you. If worst-case scenario, they don’t agree with all of the things that I talk about or if they don’t even want to do all of the things right now, that’s okay but at least get it in their head, get them thinking about it, get them understanding it. Get them to actually start to know things that they didn’t know before.