Commitment. Think about this for a moment, if you change absolutely nothing in your current approach and the choices that you make in your day-to-day lifestyle, what would things look like for you a year from now?
I really want you to take that and think about that for a moment because whether you are having fertility problems, whether you have been diagnosed with infertility of any kind, whether it’s to do with sperm, or a female factor or, as I most often find, the cumulative impact of a number of minor factors, what I want you to think about is that …if you change absolutely nothing, what would a year from now look like for you?
If your honest you’ll probably think, “Wow, okay! Things would be exactly the same.” I don’t want that for you. I don’t want things to be exactly the same for you a year down the track.
Here’s another important question…
“What are the things that you feel right now, things that you feel in day-to-day lifestyle that you could change to improve your health and therefore improve your fertility”
The answer to this question is key because therein lies the answer to what you need to start doing today. Despite scientific research evidence, when I talk with couples about how lifestyle and environmental changes can improve fertility many people are still skeptical. The question that I often ask the skeptical people is
“Would you rather be happy or would you rather be right?”
Because many times in life we don’t make changes because we have a way of thinking that precludes us or prevents us from making choices that are going to liberate and free us. If you think that there is something that you can do, then just by believing you can change you are already more likely to succeed at making the changes necessary.
Optimum fertility requires a holistic approach, which is very different to the assisted reproductive technologies like IVF or ICSI that look specifically at one parameter and one aspect as a way of getting you to create a healthy baby or create a baby.
What natural fertility does is it looks at you as a whole person from your moods to your stress levels, to your chemical exposure, to your environmental exposure to your lifestyle, to your dietary habits.
What I like to say is that a healthy body is a fertile body. The healthier you can be, the more you can optimize your health in general, the easier it will be for you to really do the things that you would need to do in order to create the healthiest possible baby.
So start looking at what you are doing. Are the things you’re doing life taking or are they life giving? That’s what it comes down to. I mean most of us know exactly what we need to do in order to be healthier. Like I said before what are the changes that you can identify straightaway, that you will be able to make all the difference for you.
Does this stuff really work?
Well, absolutely. Harvard Medical School did a study with over 17,000 people. The study conclusion was that a fertility diet and a fertility lifestyle improved fertility by 69%. We’re not talking about a small study here. But then we also have studies done by Foresight, which is the association for preconceptional healthcare in the UK. What they show is that by optimizing health at least four months prior to a conception attempt, a couple can increase fertility by up to 81%.
People often ask me
“Why should I make any changes when my friends they drink, smoke, do drugs, and they do all these unhealthy things and they have healthy babies. Why do I have to radically transform my lifestyle?”
That’s a really valid question, but you see the answer to that question often is very simple. The fact is that people respond in different ways. People’s bodies are wired in different ways. A person may have a weakness on the reproductive system and another person might have a weakness in their respiratory system or in their digestive system.
Really we need to compare ourselves with ourselves and we need to say,
“Where I am at right now, it’s not happening. So what do I need to do in order to make sure that it happens or in order to make sure that I increase my chances?”
The Critical Reviews in Toxicology, which is a scientific journal published in 2004, give a very good scientific explanation describing how polymorphism in genes can lead to differences in levels of susceptibility of individuals to potentially adverse affects of environmental influence such as chemical exposure, prenatal development, or male and female function.
What this tells us is simply that people’s genetics react differently. Those differences can cause differences in male and female function, so namely fertility and that’s what we’re talking about, but also in the development of the child in the way in which chemicals and toxins will affect the way that the body works. This is why it’s so important for us to understand that we need to compare ourselves with ourselves, not others, not your friends or even family members.
Another great study that was published in the Academy of Nurse Practitioners in 2006 talks about multiple risks because a lot of couples, without even knowing, we can sometimes partake in lifestyle factors that will really deplete our health and our fertility, and for men, these are really important things.
The study said, “Couples who reported multiple risk behaviours such as alcohol, tobacco, caffeine, and recreational substances reported a 7.3 fold increase in time to conception compared to couples that did not engage in these behaviours.
What this means is that for couples who drink, smoke, drink coffee perhaps use recreational drugs, it took them 7.3 times longer to conceive than couples who didn’t do those things.
What happens is that if you want to speed up the process of creating the healthiest possible baby, making changes in lifestyle is going to be absolutely essential because what happens is this: optimum input equals optimum output. It’s as simple as that, everything that we do in general in our lifestyle, in our day-to-day will have an impact.
In another study published in the Children’s Journal in 2007, said that
“Many human fetuses and infants have to adapt to a limited supply of nutrients, and in doing so, and they permanently change their physiology and metabolism. These program changes maybe the origins of a number of diseases later in life including coronary heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and hypertension. Unlike adaptations made in adult life, those made during early development tend to have permanent effects on the body’s function and structure, a phenomenon sometimes referred to as programming. They allow the fetus to survive and continue to grow but at a price of a shortened life.”
If you’ve been questioning the, what, when and how of making lifestyle and health changes then know that your not alone. Sometimes the changes that you need to make can be a little bit overwhelming. Start slowly. Commit to making the changes, one day at a time.
You will find that things will be a lot easier with your partner’s support, so just because you might feel a little bit overwhelmed to begin with, don’t feel that it’s not worthwhile. You will notice a dramatic improvement in the way that your body responds and certainly in your fertility in general. Stick to it.
Kickstart Your Commitment to Change
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