When trying to conceive age is one of the leading factors that most couples fear will limit their chances of getting pregnant and in my experience a fearful or doubtful mindset is one of the first things to address on the journey to parenthood.
I was asked recently about how to stop worrying about age and knowing that it is common fear I thought I’d share my advice. Clearly addressing your worry depends first of all on how you old you are and how long you think you still have in order to conceive. Yet it also depends on your beliefs and what other options you are giving yourself.
For example someone who is say 39 and would not consider donor egg or donor embryo or have had miscarriage issues in the past or have had infertility in the past, they’re going to be much more concerned and worried about age than someone who might be 30 and has never tried to conceive before.
Now speaking from personal experience any negativity can be a challenging mindset to overcome when you want to get pregnant. I was diagnosed with PCOS from the age of 18 and told simply, “Look. It’s very possible that you’re never going to have a child.” Obviously that played in the back of my mind.
But here’s what I did and would recommend as a way to help stop worry about age. Its an issue of mindset, essentially from quite early on I expected the fact that I may never have a child. So working backwards from worst case scenario I then went about doing everything that I possibly could in order to ensure that I would, if that makes any sense. I kind of accepted that, “Well, if it doesn’t happen after I have tried everything that I possibly could, then you know what I’m just going to accept that and I’m just going to live with it. It is what it is.”
Admittedly – when it came my time to try and conceive – I was blessed to have been helping couples that have fertility problems for a really long time. I knew what needs to be in place, and what needed to be avoided and the reality is that if you’re reading this then you too, are discovering what you need to do.
My advice is check your mindset. For me that meant reaching the point where I just thought, “It’s okay. Whatever happens, I’m happy with.” I even kind of had that same sense and that same feeling now. I mean I don’t know if I’ll be able to have another child. I’m older. There’s a whole bunch of factors associated with that, but I kind of just go, “You know what? I’m just going to do the best that I can, and I’m going to do everything that I possibly control, and the rest I’m going to leave up to God,”
Act Pregnant Now to Get Pregnant Later
When I talk about acting pregnant now to get pregnant later, I’m talking about doing all the things that you would do if you were pregnant right now. You’d stop drinking alcohol, smoking and recreational drugs if this was part of your pre-pregnancy lifestyle. You’d start reading labels and becoming more aware of the hazards in your home environment.
It’s about being as optimally healthy and fertile as you possibly can, and once you do that, and you accept that you know doing your part is going to be as much as you can control, and everything else is you’re going you have to live with. The issue many couples face is that they often “don’t know what they don’t know” and there are a multitude of relatively subtle factors that can negatively impact one’s health and fertility resulting in changeable (if you know how) “infertility”.
In my experience there are 3 key problems couples experience:
- They don’t know WHY they are not getting pregnant;
- They feel they’ve tried everything and nothing has worked;
- They are totally stressed about not having a baby.
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